In Song of Soloman, love plays a big role in nearly every character’s life. Often when we think of love, we envision a good, romantic situation, but this type of love is scarce in this novel. Some of the main love connections that are found in Song of Soloman include both Ruth and Hagar’s love for Milkman and these are the most destructive of the lot. In my opinion, love drives the plot and creates the most conflict between characters.
Let us start with Hagar and Milkman. This relationship starts when Milkman is young and he is struck by her beauty “She [Hagar] was to him [Milkman], as pretty a girl as he’d ever seen… He seemed to be floating.(45)”. We learn that for the next couple of years, Milkman is obsessed with his cousin (yes I know its weird). To be clear it is often not the love itself that causes destruction, but rather when it hurts the mindset of the lover. When one of the characters in this novel is obsessed with something, especially another person, it often spells an incoming disaster.
Back to the example from the book, the relationship between Milkman and Hagar grows beyond a one sided love from milkman. Over time the relationship switches and suddenly Hagar is the one falling over Milkman, and meanwhile he has lost interest. Hagar’s love reaches a new level and this is seen after Milkman tries to break things off with her. Then the love story turns into every crazy killer movie, and Hagar goes around trying to kill Milkman to make him pay for breaking her heart. This is one example of how love causes Hagar to act irrationally, and her obsession for Milkman lead to her demise.
The other big relationship in the story is between Milkman and his mother, Ruth. Just like the previous relationship, this one has its highs and lows. Ruth’s motherly love for Milkman is initially seen as good, and when Macon tries to keep Milkman from Ruth we find it awful. This was my initial reaction, but it changed quickly after learning that Ruth was using Milkman to get back at her husband. This put a new twist on the initial story about motherly love, and it is turned into a much darker version. This motherly love causes many conflicts throughout the Dead household, and it is just another example of destructive love.
Overall, there are a lot of different sections of Song of Solomon that are effected by some kind of love, but it often leads to destruction and problems that drive the plot.